At Least I Like Cats

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A while back, I was asked to read Lady in Waiting, a book written for single Christian women. I've read my fair share of dating and courtship books, and I've never been very impressed by them. I don't want to wait to kiss a boy until my wedding day, and I don't want some book making me feel like a slut because of it.

This book, however, talked about embracing this time in my life and using it to the fullest potential. I have more free time now than I probably will ever again, and I shouldn't be wasting it away daydreaming of Prince Charming. Hey, that actually sounds reasonable.

I gleaned most of that from the cover of the book and maybe the first chapter, and things just got better as I went.

Now, it's true that I'm excited about this book. It's also true that I like talking about this book with other people who are in my situation. Being single isn't easy. Being single for the 22nd year in a row isn't easy. Being a single Christian woman who is willing to stick by her beliefs and morals isn't easy. I totally get that, and I'm more than happy to chow down a bag of popcorn and empathize with anyone who remotely understands how not easy this is.

However, dear boss lady, I do not want to talk about this book as a Bible study leader at my church. I do not want to be known as the resident expert on being single, and I do not want to hear anyone else tell me why I'd be such a great fit. 1) It's depressing. 2) I already spend five or six days a week at the church. 3) Did I mention it's depressing? 4) Holy cow, this is not what I thought life would be like as a twenty-something.

Anyway, to put an end to this insanity, I'm officially declaring my nameless fish as my temporary boyfriend until a real one comes along. That means it is now doubly important that he has a name (and an awesome one, at that), so scurry back over to the previous entry to pitch your ideas. Also, keep your fingers crossed that he starts eating sometime soon, or else I'll be reduced to dating a dead fish, which is a level of pathetic I'm not willing to explore just yet.

seven

seven

Dude, yeah... totally depressing. "Hey everyone, look at my complete lack of knowledge of the world of dating! I'm so good at being single, I'll probably still be unmarried when I'm older than dirt. Anything you need to know about being single? Just ask me! Don't think I ever imagined anything besides perpetual singleness or anything... I like being alone."

Uh... wow. A little bitter? Anyway... all I can say is that it doesn't get any better when you're 26. Sorry.

Jace of Fuse!

Jace of Fuse!

Gorton.

'nuff Said.

Will

Will

Ok, Many birds with one stone here.

1. Your not wrong. Also, you shouldnt feel ashamed in the least about feeling the way that you do.

2. As one twenty something to another (and someone who is surrounded by twenty somethings who arent using their college degrees) I dont think any of us saw this coming. Life at 20 is never what it was for our parents, or grandparents, or anything that we expected. I'm a professional wrestler with a podcast and a freelance graphic design kick. I thought I would be a writer, lol. Also, single with one cat, not married with 1 kid, like I planned.

3. Temporary Boyfriend fish? Frodo Skirts. Duh. Or you could name him after the finest and most angry fish i've ever met, Automatic Stickshift. This fish was immortal. He scared cats, ate almost nothing and, in his finest hour, fell into a bowl of ketchup and came out fine, if not ketchupy.

:)

golfwidow

golfwidow

If he does die, you definitely want to go with the name "Norwegian Blue." They prefer kipping on their backs.

As far as being unmatched into your twenties is concerned, I spent the first half of my twenties engaged to be married to a man who thought he could be engaged without ever having to actually marry anyone. I'd have been far happier being alone. At least I'd have had a better idea of where I stood.

Never let the presence or absence of another person define you. You might be less lonely with someone of your own to love, but you're pretty terrific all by yourself, too.

Joel

Joel

In terms of still being single, I vacillate a lot between "our whole society is broken" and "just I am broken."

Sometimes I try to ease it by reminding myself how much more wrenching it can be to be trapped or isolated while in a bad relationship than to have none at all. But sour grapes don't really taste that good.

Just as you said...in my best moments, I see that life is short and there is much to do, that God determines my steps. I have wanted very much to be married; but perhaps what I most need is just good friends who love God and are genuine with each other.

And no, I don't want to teach a class on it either, for the same reasons you mentioned. Realistically, this isn't stuff you learn in a class environment anyways.

Blindsquirrel

Blindsquirrel

You're 22 and still single? I know it seems depressing now, but you're smart to tough it out. I got married at 24...and then spent the rest of my twenties trying to get over it. Trust me, things get better when you finally get the twenties out of the way and start the thirties...

I'm not saying you are (or should be) unhappy, but just remember it's better to be single and unhappy than married an unhappy. Trust me on that.